Overcoming Abuse and Domestic Violence (Floyd Mayweather Video)

The first thing one must do to overcome abuse, is to address it. It is easy for someone to tell you to get over it, but unless they experience it, they have no comprehension of the deep trauma it has caused. I know personally I had an attraction to older men, because of my multiple experiences of sexual abuse, from the age of five through twelve. It does not have to be penetration for it to be sexual abuse.

Physical abuse many times, comes as a result of sexual abuse. The guilt felt, may be manifest by the aggressor to attempt to diminish what they have done. Boys and Girls are both subject to sexual and physical abuse. Many times, men will not reveal abuse, because of shame. This in the future results in domestic violence. Women can be the perpetrator of domestic violence as well.

Media only portrays the surface of a story, when it comes to domestic violence and athletes. Being a woman, I can say that we have a tendency to push a man's buttons. There is cause and affect. If you are being verbally abused; sometimes the only way to protect yourself, can lead to physical aggression. It is never acceptable to hit a person, but it it never alright to verbally abuse an individual either.

It is an extensive process to overcome the affects of abuse. Each person takes a different amount of time to heal. The first step to healing is to acknowledge the need and seek help. It is difficult many times to reveal painful secrets to a stranger. I find that if you speak to someone in an open, but remote natural setting, the environment will make you more comfortable and open to exchange information more freely.

I will share this with you. I have experienced various forms of abuse throughout my childhood and adult life. It wasn't until I was in an environment, that reminded me of all those negative memories, that I realized, it was not my fault. I Am Worthy and I Deserve Better. I often wondered why I would make self-destructive decisions. I am at a point in my life where I refuse to settle. You cannot force one to desire, what the heart refuses.

We each live and learn. Our journey may be hard and painful along the way. I had to free myself from the thoughts that I was at fault for the actions of others. When you release your pain, by talking about it and openly acknowledging what you were and were not responsible for, you are free. You become free from the incarceration of the mind. You see that your life is far better than it was. You begin to accept good things in life.

It is not uncommon to raise your standards, significantly. Start to see yourself, the way others have seen you. If it is good, wonderful. If the way someone has made you feel is bad, know that for every bad thing someone says about you, they have internalized negativity of themselves. Let bad things go. If the person keeps speaking negative to you, then let them go. Sometimes the best thing you can do for an abuser is to stay away from them.

I had to stay away from family members for a long time. I am not now, nor have I ever been what they think or thought of me. No ones opinion of me matters, only what I think of myself. Loving yourself is the key to feeling better. If you think better, feel better you are better. Think, Feel and Create a better you. Domestic Violence
                                                                       

            The first way to determine what abuse and domestic violence are, is to define them.


                                                                         Abuse

• to use wrongly or improperly; misuse
• to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way:
• to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign.
• to commit sexual assault upon
• to deceive or mislead.
• wrong or improper use; misuse
• harshly or coarsely insulting language
• bad or improper treatment; maltreatment
• a corrupt or improper practice or custom